I met a new twin mommy this morning. Her boys turn six weeks old tomorrow. She's working so hard at breast feeding and just getting a handle on things. She's been very fortunate with help, today was her first day home alone. Well, not really alone as I visited as well as her doula. But for the firs six weeks she's had family available to her.
Her babies are perfect and adorable. One reminds me of Nathan in that he's a bit louder than the other and requires more holding time. I couldn't help her too much as I had my boys with me, but I was able to hold her little "Q" for awhile and burp him so that she could nurse her other baby. I do NOT miss that stage I tell you. I remember when my boys were six weeks and everyone kept saying, "oh it gets better about 6 weeks". And when it didn't get better it just made me sad and confused. I think she's at that stage right now.
I hope my boys with their giggles, happy dispositions and smiling faces helped her see the light at the end of the tunnel. I was so glad they were happy and on their best behavior, the last thing she would needs is two more crabby babies in her presence. Nathan was his grinning, mischievous self and Wesley just smiled and entertained himself by watching his hands. He is so easily amused. Nathan gets bored quickly, but he's so animated when he is delighted by something.
I am envious of the help she's received and envious of the sleep she gets at night, but I'm so thankful I'm beyond that sore nipple stage. On one hand it would have been so easy to have twins first then a singleton, but on the other, I think it would be so hard being a first time mommy and having two babies screaming at you and not fully understanding that sometimes, that's what some babies do. I wouldn't trade places with anyone that's for sure. I love having Jake as the big brother. I love how good he is with his siblings. Now if I could just get his baby brothers to nap and sleep through the night like he does, I'd be golden!
I brought the new mommy a book that helped me, Mothering Multiples. And I also brought a few outfits that my boys have outgrown. I didn't want to give her too much advice or boggle her with details or suggestions. I only made one suggestion and I hope it helps. I reminded her to call me any time, even if it is just to vent or cry. One thing is for sure, I'll be awake if she calls. I'm always awake these days.
I hope this new twin mommy and I can be friends. It will be nice to have someone in the area with twin boys very close in age to my boys. She and I have a lot of the same interests which is great. I'm so thankful that I have such a caring midwife who put the two of us in touch with each other so that we can help one another. It's times like this that I realize how important mom friends are, how important female friends are in fact. I never appreciated women friends until I became a mommy. Nobody can talk sore nips and terrible diapers like two new mommies. It's nice to have someone who understands.